Your boss loves you and saying NO to any work given to you is never an option.
Skipping lunch, rushing through dinner, cheating yourself out of hours of sleep has become part of your daily schedule. You miss parties and family functions without batting an eyelid. And always give the same excuse "I'VE GOT WORK".
But beware - This is not a sign of a devoted worker but that of a workaholic whose single minded focus negatively impacts other areas of our life like family, health, liesure and friends.
Signs of workaholism are - you are too tired, irritable, socially isolated, may suffer from headaches, insomnia, shortness of breath, racing heart, muscle tension, ulcers
[question posted by mayka123]
responses and comments:
Hmmmmm what a definiation when i joined Job, and in textiles export and in Marketing i was like that, rather more like that 12-14 hours daily work. and will u believe in dreams i was despatching and checking samples then i said to myself, what am i doing, then i control it, but it never means i miss my targets Take care [cupid74]
ahhh, thanks i need them [cupid74]
Yeah I love work but no never married to it. In my personal opinion any one who always says IVE GOT WORK is simply not organized. [lovaji]
Yes u r right. Thanks for your response and happy posting. [mayka123]
Good advice and some useful thoughts by you by workaholic. I do not fall into this category. I try my best to dispose of my work, as soon as it is assigned to me. I do not believe in keeping anything pending with me, irrespective of the fact,whether it is important or otherwise. I do value my social liabilities and relations very much and I do attend social gatherings and do not forget to wish birthdays and anniversaries to my near and dear ones. [dpk262006]
Thanks a lot Deepak. [mayka123]
Goodness! That describes me a few years ago. Then I started a family and my priorities changed. I think it's definitely for the better. Whoever once said that "we should work to live, not live to work" was right! [penny64]
Yes many change their priorities after marriage. But not all. And I think we should all learn to work to live. [mayka123]
i'm definitely not married to my job. i do whatever work my boss gives me but i'll not miss functions because of work. my boss is quite understanding about it as well so there will never be too much work. i treasure my family much more than my job. to me, i can always find another job but i'll never have another family. i believe that a job is something that pays the bills. i get my satisfaction and happiness from my family. cheers ;p [applefreak]
Nowadays very few people give more priority to their family than their job. Good work. Yes the family is more important for all of us, [mayka123]
i was my own boss soi ushed ny self even harder. all those things you mentioned tho i did. i am now paying for it w/bad health. stop & smell the roses. i was a hairdresser & all those people i accodated for 48 years don't even know i exist anymore since i can't do their hair anymore. i hear from 2 or 3 on a regular basis but that's it. [ANTIQUELADY]
Thanks a lot for your reassuring response. Sure I look around and find that I have lesser troubles. [mayka123]
yes am a lover of my job.. [blackhole]
till now not. may be at working time, i am very serious to do my jobs. but at times, when i need to take rest from it, i do. on weekends i try not to think so much about job.it can really cause problem in many ways. [subha12]
Gud that though you are very serious about your job you do make time for your self also. I too try to forget about my work once I leave the office premises. [mayka123]
hmmmmm... maybe... i do love working but i make it to a point that nobody from my family will be affected. it's just by merely knowing what your limitations are. [tamiedy]
hhhmmmm....thanks a lot for your response and happy posting. [mayka123]
I work for my husband for 18 years now. In the beginning I used to sleep with the business phone by my bed so that I wouldn't miss a call. Yes I was always working. We always talked business and I never seemed to leave the job. After some years it started to catch up to me. I learned how to "turn it off" in my mind. I would refuse to talk work after a certain time. At first it took that dedication to get the company going. When I realized we were ok and I didn't need to eat, sleep, and breathe work, self control was the answer to my workaholic state! [redkathy]
Good you have changed your lifestyle before it ruined your health. [mayka123]
o.0 i am making sure that i will not to get that stage. my hubby is my priority... i always make sure that i will leave our shop at this time so i cant go home and have lunch with him and then have coffee afterwards. he is always 1st in my list. [MaeTsuen]
Make sure he is forever first in your list. All the best to you and happy posting. [mayka123]
I'm not married to my job and I don't ever want to. I know some people who are, and it's just not healthy and fun. I want to earn money, I do, but I don't want to lose my family in doing that, what would the money for if I lose my family? Maybe it's because I'm a woman, I don't know. Happy mylotting and have a nice day!!happy [ucancallmedissy]
I agree it is not healthy to be giving too much preference to your job and ruining your health and family relationships in the bargain. Its is not only women but also men who feel this way. Thanks for your response and happy posting. [mayka123]
i am hardworking when i got my work before eventhough salary wasn't enough..., i like my work to get done for each day and i dont care if i don't get overtime payment for working too much. What is important i will get done of them for each working day. yeah and when i get home i get tired and sleepy and even forgot to check how was the family doing lol [cil2008]
Yes sometimes job satisfaction is more important than salary. But I dont think we should ignore the family for the sake of our job. Family should be given equal importance. [mayka123]
I am an independent contractor. I get to work from home. So no, I am only married to my hubby. I am lucky and I know it. I think it is healthier. [ersmommy1]
your hubby is lucky.lol. [riyasam]
i don't think so... as much as i love my job, i don't want to be married to it... i want to have life... i want my social life, my family life and my health... it is much more important than my job and money... so i don't think i will ever want to trade my life for money... take care and have a nice day... [lingli_78]
Thanks a lot for your response. Yes Our social life, family and health should always be given more importance. All the best and take care. [mayka123]
I think everybody faces this in their first weeks after getting a job. trying to impress your boss. I remeber doing this in my first job! I even skipped my father's funeral/burial just to go back to job miles away. I consoled myself on my way to work that " yes my father is dead, I have remained here and I need to work inorder to survive......" but this thing came to affect me later on...I had only worked for 2 weeks when my father died so I thought if i dont go to work am going to loose my job. Workaholism is a disease! its an addiction and am glad am over it. It can make your social life miserable and you might loose your family. Thanks for highlighting this mayka. [kwenge]
Thanks for the Br my friend. Right now I make sure I work only the office hours. How have you been? [kwenge]
I have had a lot of different works. And I have liked most of them. But never so much as I get marriage with it. I always take my lunch or coffee break. And I never work some extra hours. I always leave the work,when the day is over. Beacuse itīs very important to have your own life. [Mickey_Mouse]
Yes we should all have our own lives and not let the work rule our lives. Thanks a lot for your response and happy posting. [mayka123]
I have never been like that to any of my jobs. But maybe I will in the future. Especially if you are taking care of your job. I should say, all that I had in the past are fling jobs. [crisesand]
You should take your job seriously but not so seriously that it affects your daily life. I hope you enjoy your job when you get it. [mayka123]
Yes, i am. nearly all my time is spent on working except very few hours sleeping and surtfing the internet. My boss neednot to press me to work, i'd love to, keep myself busy ,so that i have no time to bore and reward myself on off days buying lots of stuff, working happily and spending money gaily. [gabbana]
Do make some time for liesure too. Earning and spending is not everying. [mayka123]
I'm a workaholic before. It takes me one whole year before i realized that I'm killing myself slowly. That's why I quit my job with out regret. I'm now working in front of the computer. Taking my life easy.lol [reckon21]
Its good you have realized before it was too late. Hope you are enjoying life now. Happy posting. [mayka123]
No imn ot married to my job,to me my family come first and everything else takes a second place.IT is all very well to be obssessed with you place of work,but no one is indipensible,and we can all be easily replaced, but if we burn ourselves out then there is no one to replace us within the family unit.So work would take a dsecond place to my family any day [ruby222]
All of us should realize that we are not indispensable in our place of work and should not give too much importance to work. [mayka123]
Nope, i am not. There was a time when i am like this. All i did was about work and i was not able to do my responsibilities at work. When my family remond of this, i tend to become angry at them. All my waking hours were about work. work, work, work! Then, something happened that changed my priorities. My kids told me that they are losing me... I stopped at whay i was doing and rearranged my life. [everlasting]
It is good you have rearranged your life before it was too late. All the best to you and happy posting. [mayka123]
oh that is bad.i am not a workaholic but i know many of my friends who are workaholic and as a result of that they suffer from many health problems. [riyasam]
Its good you are not a workaholic and I think you should advise your friends also to change their habits before they get more sick. [mayka123]
wow that's good and every person should follow the job but not as devoted as u mentioned here..its really not gonna work ..the sickness with many disease will follow u and Ur work..so mind it before getting married to job...i agree with you!!happy [re2809]
I would not at all like to be like the person mentioned. But I have seen a lot of these kind of specimens. I would prefer remaining unmarried. [mayka123]
I would say if your like this then you need to seek help and fast. There is so much life to enjoy. Why would you want to miss a minute of it. [onlinetomakemoney]
I am not like this at all. But I see people around me like this and wanted to know how many more are there around. [mayka123]
ya of course I am its the only thing that matters a lot to me other than my sister... I love both of them and both of them are important to me more than anything else in this universe... [maathavan]
ya saw u over gtalk over long time.. but that you were on some office work so not wanted to disturb you?! [maathavan]
im not married to my job lol thats for sure,I like my job,but thats as far as it goes,as soon as any employer sees a soft touch then he will take advantage ad you will be expected to be there at his beck and call,and theres no way that im ever going to let that one happen,you need to be respected in the workplace,not a doormat [Bobbysox]
Even though we do not want to become a doormat very often we end up being at the beck and call of the bosses and one day find that we do not have any personal life left. This sometimes happens without we even wanting it. [mayka123]
Hi mayka, When I was working, I really really love my job and enjoy the company of my office mates but I am not that devoted to my work, after work, I always find time for recreation....Every Friday, I have a night out with friends to release stress and enjoy life! LOL! SO, I would say in the past 3 jobs I had, I was never married to those but I would say, I was a great employee!happy [checapricorn]
I too make it a point to just divert myself away from work once I leave the office. It is no use working 24 hours a day and neglecting our home and family. Thanks a lot for joining in the discussion. [mayka123]