My husband has been having problems at work, to the point where he's actually contemplating quitting his job. He's been with this company for 5 years now, and actually loves the work he does, but some of his co-workers are just ruining it for him.
The Sales Manager is the main problem. She's a 20 year old with a severe attitude, and she treats everyone in the store like they're her doormats. She doesn't technically have any power over anyone in the store, but she seems to think she does. She orders the delivery boys around and tells them they have to answer to her. Since my husband has been in that store (1 year ago) she's made at least 5 delivery guys quit because they can't stand her attitude. She has actually told a few that she didn't like that she'd make them quit... and in the end it worked!
My husband is not a delivery guy... he is the Customer Accounts Manager, and acts as the GM whenever the GM is not there. Basically he and the Sales Manager are equals, same position but different departments (there are only 7 people in his store, the GM, 2 girls in sales, 2 guys in collections, and 2 delivery). But what she's doing is affecting him. She gives him the same attitude she gives the delivery boys, and he's getting fed up.
The worst part is the GM is protecting the Sales Manager. He keeps making excuses for her, or he'll tell my husband that he'll handle her, but then doesn't.
It all came to blows yesterday when one of the delivery guys got fed up and called their District Manager telling him exactly what's going on, and what the Sales Manager has said to him. After which the DM calls the GM, and my husband over hears the GM deny everything and actually turn it all around on the delivery guy, basically trying to get the delivery guy in trouble.
Although this is not his fight, my husband got involved anyways, and called the DM himself to explain that the delivery guy was telling the truth and the GM was lying to protect the Sales Manager.
He is just fed up with the fact that she gets away with whatever she wants, and the GM actually protects her. The GM has had people fired for trying to get her in trouble! (I'm wondering if maybe the GM is sleeping with her... although he's married and she's in a serious relationship). There was a delivery guy a few months ago who got fed up and called the DM as well about what the Sales Manager was doing, then the next day the GM fired him!
My husband doesn't know what to do now. He's sure the GM will retaliate on him for what he said to the District Manager (thankfully the GM does not have the power to fire my hubby). We're both certain that nothing will ever really be done about the Sales Manager, or the way the GM handles her. He wants to quit over this, but we all know that with the economy the way it is, it's not smart to quit a good job right now.
What are your thoughts on the situation?
[question posted by katsmeow1213]
responses and comments:
I am sorry if there is some younger girls in mylot. What i am going to say now, is not directed at you. First af all, your husband should make a point in letting the DM come to this store, without the GM knowing about it. He should be there to see what is happening. And that litle b*********. If i were your husband, i would keep a diary of when everyone either quit or get fired. I have to agree, i think that there is something going on between those two. Those young girls normally know what to use to get that sort of power and attention. If this doesn,t work, is there any way that he can ask for a transfer to another store. Believe me that litlle fox is not going to let go, they are the type who will keep at it, as long as they can, no matter what the consequnces. [saphrina]
Then he has to get the DM to come there. [saphrina]
Sadly that scenario is very common with bosses inflicting power over people in a manner which is unprofessional. As such, if your hubby quits he is just as likely to find the same situation in another place, that is if he gets another job considering the current economic climate. Although it's not nice for him he is better of staying where he is as although work will no doubt be unpleasant at times he has more job security because the GM can't sack him and he knows what he is doing there. Also by bringing it to the attention of the DM the situation will, or at least should be watched more closely by those in overall power and so maybe this sales manager will be forced into another position at a different store if it continues. What would be a compromise and a good one at that, is if your hubby really wants to leave then he should try to secure another job first rather than just quitting. Which I am sure will have crossed your minds already. [thedailyclick]
He is just starting to look at other opportunities... but he'd have to find something that paid just as well with just as many or fewer hours, which is really hard to find. I don't think he will quit, but if he gets mad enough one day he will. Yesterday was pretty close. [katsmeow1213]
Yes it sound like to me, that something is going on, with this young 20 year old, and the GM person it will all come out, if nothing is done about what she is doing, she will get what coming to her, some time you can do wrong for so long, one day it all comes fall down around you, and you don't know why, I don't think your husband should quit his job.happy [notlistening2]
I don't know if you have read my discussion on "Personality Colors." But, this lady sounds like a Red. Always wanting to be in charge, and it seems to me like she has something over the boss, whether she has slept with them, or saw him with someone else, or some other thing. That part of it doesn't really have anything to do with her being a red personality. So why, is her being a Red personality important. It is very easy to "convince" a red to behave how you like, get to their ego, and get them to do things that they don't even like to do. Compliment, Compliment, Challenge. You are a really great SM, and you really improve the productivity of the business, but I bet you wouldn't be able to make everyone in the office smile at least once a day. Or something to that effect, show this to your husband, and see if can't think of a way try it out with this person. On a side note, working in an office is very stressful, you have to conform to your bosses demands. But some people have found a way to bring home a pay check with out leaving their house. Much Love and Appreciation. [CJscott]
It really is that simple, almost makes me wish more then 15% of the population was like that. I am in network marketing, learning about the way people think is a hobby of mine that helps with my business, you would not believe how much the way you say something sounds different to different people. Cheers. [CJscott]
Im actually going through something similar as your husband except not as complicated. I work at a local coffee shop at night. On shift is usually myself and another individual. Ive been with this one company for 6 years. I got hired when I was 15 and Im now 21. I dont mind the job but it just keeps getting worse. Im a cashier / baker but not a supervisor or manager. We dont have either on our shift so since Ive been there the longest they put me in charge. Honestly I dont want the responsibility. When something goes wrong they will pin it on me even if another employee does it. Ive gotten written up numerous times for something someone else did. The managers listen to the other employees who have been there anywhere from 3 - 6 months whereas Ive been there 6 years. The other day I was doing store front or cashier and I had several customers come in with $100 and $50 bills and ordered. Well we ve always been told we have to accept this high of bills. So I had two tills but I didnt have enough change in one or the other so I had to keep go back and forth. But to open the tills we need to punch things in to open the draw. We use to punch in a donut which was 0.89$ or so well we got in trouble so we were told to punch in a coffee. Well I did this and they turn around saying its suspicious with all these voids in my till. I explained why and what happened and they didnt believe me. Said next time Ill get written up. The way the conversation went they basically accusing me of stealing. Honestly, I dont need the money I have money saved up and have enough that I dont have to work for at least 2 years. Im just getting extremely frustrated over everything at this place. Also, Ive had several other employees have similar issues with the two managers. I know a lot of times the managers will eventually leave but a few of us old timers are getting fed up with it all. You go through the steps with dealing with the issue and they talk to each other and make accusations. Im thinking about taking a leave of absence or cutting my shifts back so I can just get away and not have to worry about this while in school. I think you husband did the right thing with sticking up for the delivery boy. Honestly, he should stick it out or try too. Also, start looking for jobs. Ive been looking and getting everything prepared for the time being so if I do get fed up and leave my currently jobs I will have someting planned. I have a few cashiers who act like that one girl and the managers fall for every word. I dont know if they do it to shut them up or they actually believe them. I had one guy I worked with who would lie. Say that he didnt know how to do a certain tasks or something similar yet he did. It just erks me in these kind of situations too. [Ricki911]
Seems there are a few people at every job that nobody can get along with, or who get away with what they want for whatever reason. [katsmeow1213]
Hello katsmeow1213! What is going on in that organization is happening in other organizations as well. It is in fact happening in our organization too. Since the GM does not have the power to fire your husband, there is really no reason to worry especially about staying in the organization. Unless, retaliation will come in a different form. If you know what I mean. Does the DM have power to reprimand and fire the GM? If yes, then that is what should happen. Besides, the DM already knows what is going on in the organization. But if your husband really likes to leave the organization, then he should first make sure he lands on something after. Good luck and God Bless! [dolce_vita78]
I'm not sure firing the GM is warranted in this situation. I would like to see the Sales Manager reprimanded. But this company treats a lot of employees with kid gloves until they do something serious to warrant being fired. My guess is this situation will not be addressed because nobody will think it's that serious. [katsmeow1213]
I think your hubby should hang onto his guns and do not back down from this. I think that if something like this is going on..no one can fix it if they don't know the truth. Sometimes things happen at the right time. Your husband is not the first one to have complained and provided his work history with the company is a good one...there should not be any problem for him. Other than what the two people try to inflict on a personal level. Tell your hubby to hang in there and see what happens. I'm in management and we just recently had an entire over haul because of a few complaints and a little investigation. It was a good thing for everyone that it happened too. Maybe this will be a good thing for your hubby too. [JenInTN]
As I said in my above response... this company treats people with kid gloves. There was once a GM my hubby worked with who didn't do any aspect of his job properly, and constantly left early. It was well known to the DM what this guy was doing, but they did nothing. Eventually he did get fired because he got careless and let merchandise go without writing it up. [katsmeow1213]
I am so sorry your husband finds himself in this situation. In my experience women make the worsed managers but even worse than that are women who THINK they are managers. They try to make up for their insecurities by taking over EVERYTHING and riding rough-shod over EVERYBODY in the misguided belief that they are doing their job properly. If the General Manager IS sleeping with this woman I cannot see the relationship lasting very long and, believe me his Mrs WILL find out eventually if he is...then the sparks will fly! I reckon your hubby should lay low for a bit, not get involved with other disputes (even though it's tough not to) and ride out the storm. This 20 year old will soon be gone. Trust me! What your hubby must NOT do is resign. Then the floozy will have won, and we can't have that can we?wink [Janey1966]
This has already been going on for over a year, and it's not just affecting him just because he's getting in the middle... it's affecting him in other ways too. She'll give him her attitude first hand. It is worse on the delivery guys because she thinks she is their boss... and the one delivery guy is friends with my husband. Time will tell I guess. [katsmeow1213]
Well, first I do think that she is having it off with the boss. Secondly, your husband must stay put, be pleasant but firm around her. I would then advise that he keeps a diary at home and writes down anything she says or does that is not professional. It is important theat he maintains his cool at all times with the GM and anyone else - but write it down, This is so important as it is evidence if there dhould be a showdown or something with the DM. Good for yiur husband for standing up to this little witch! [cynthiann]
I'll tell him to start journaling everything about the GM and Sales Manager. Hopefully something will change soon now that the DM has been made aware. [katsmeow1213]
Hi, i think he have to hold on for now. The GM likes the person who can let others quit. Especially today, where we want rescission. As you can see they like new comers as they can give lower salaries. If i am your husband i will not quit my job and just do my job. That is really the trend today, it is a technique companies are using to save expenses for salaries. If he will quit he will only get a small amount of separation pay, while if he will wait that they will give up he will get full. He cant be sure also if he will find another job that he like when he quit because of the employment crisis. But if he thinks he can then i say go on. [Jcsayson]
He needs to unit everyone at his job, and get them together to complain about her. If he gets everyone together to complain about her, the people who hired her will take notice, and they will fire her. She does not have the right to treat people like that, and she should be fired for it. No one at his place of work has to take that kind of treatment from her. Tell your husband to get everyone that he knows to complain about her. Several employees against one. Think about it. [rogue13xmen13]
The DM is going to be there tomorrow when the GM has a day off, so we'll see what happens. The DM is the only one with the power to fire the SM... but I don't think it's severe enough to fire her. Maybe just being told by the DM that what she's doing is wrong will be enough to make her stop. Hubby has decided he won't put up with her BS anymore, and he gives it right back to her. That might help too. [katsmeow1213]
Hi Katsmeow, The last line in your discussion sums it up. It really is not smart to quit a good job right now. It isn't even smart to quit a lousy job right now unless you have something better lined up. They are hard to come by. If I were your hubby, I'd put on blinders and earplugs and go in and do my job the best that I can and remove myself entirely from all this drama. Maybe he could quietly tell all the people that quit due to this SM to call the DM and tell their story. Eventually the DM will see a pattern. It does actually sound as if the GM and the SM may have something going on. Either that or he has some sort of crush on her. I don't know but your hubby really has to bow out of this or he'll be the next one to walk out or get fired. [sid556]
Sounds like where I work only we all get along pretty well....thank goodness. In a small place there is not much room for escape. [sid556]
It seems that there's something going on between the GM and the SM because if not, why he keeps on defending her? It's so unfair and I think the first person who should be reported to the DM is the GM's misconduct of his authority. He's obviously being biased. Since your husband has told the DM about what the GM did, is there any action taken from the top management? The SM will always be in control because she knows that the GM will always protect and support her decisions. It's a bad situation for your husband indeed. So, I think it's best if your husband and all the workers could call on a meeting to voice out about this matter. [corrycrystal]
Sorry for your husband sinked into this trouble situation. I wondering know that how your husband terat his this job? A necessay one for your family income or located the sceond palce in his career? If it is in the fist situation, whatever trouble things would happen on him, please do not care them which produce negative feeling on his job. We cannot control others change for cater our satisfaction but can convice ourselves. As you know, things always happen in some reason, the most important thing your husband to do is focusing all his energy for his job.(it can speak for itself) As far as GM?SM, let them go and will not trust anything else about interpersonal relationship anymore in the future. But if your husband and them will have a frontal problems in the office, the worst result is your husband will be fired not them. I think you should encourage him to handle with possible derisive words from SM and do not be sensitive, though she is not be able to say kindly. The following days will not be as bad as we think:)The reason bing patient is so simply——life. Of course it is in the second situation, your husband must find a new job as soon as possible even he could give up what he loves to do:( I believe that eventhing will be resolved in the positive attitude~Good Luck! [ykkkuan]
Hi Katsmeow1213, I think the most important thing for your husband to do now, is to calm down and take things into stride. Let nothing affect what he is suppose to do and prevent any fingers or excuses from pointing his way. Acceptance is mandatory here and instead of feeling like a defeatist, he should learn to adapt and work around the current situation. The next thing to do would be, to see if there's a chance to be promoted at his place so that he could have some authority and fire some undesirable and unproductive staff members. I do not advocate a transfer or resignation here as this is just letting people get away with murder and putting yourselves into dire economic consequences. I am sure there are ways bringing these people to justice, try looking deeper and further. Gather those staff who were being unjustly fired to report their side of the story to the higher management, since they do not have to go through rank and file to voice their greviances. They may also try and report their discriminated let offs to the labor office as well. Likewise, for the current working staff as well, to start clocking and fact gathering as a group. Last but not least, how about getting him to bring a digital camcorder to work and Youtube these fiery episodes to his immediate superior to justify and substantiate all the compliants and reports? I think it is about time to do something more drastic and effective now, don't you think so? Have a nice day. [skysuccess]
Katsmeow1213, Personally, I feel that your husband is really giving this issue a little more thought than necessary. He needs to address the problem and be decisive with what he wants to do with this SM or his current situation. Mopping around and procrastinating on what to do is just not the solution for him here. The least he could do now is to decide for himself, so that he does not bring work or frustrations at the office home. If there are really valid grounds calling for her sack, then by all means proceed to do the necessary for the DM to exercise his rights without getting into legalities and labor laws. Have a nice day. [skysuccess]
It seems to me that if he quits, she wins. How about putting something in writing to the District Manager, setting out his concerns. Or if he doesn´t want to take it that high, to the General Manager. Something in writing is far more difficult to ignore or twist and tends to be taken more seriously than a conversation. [GreenMoo]
He has had numerous discussions with the GM, but of course it's being ignored because the GM is protecting the SM. The DM is coming to the store on Tuesday while the GM has the day off. He'll get a better idea of what's going on. [katsmeow1213]
Well, your husband has to make a concrete decision. The problem right now is, he's waffling around. He's kinda doing this, but kinda not, but kinda thinking about quitting, but kinda not. The stress and annoyance from the situation is building on him because he hasn't made a hard line stance. So here is the bottom line. You have three choices: Option 1. Determine this isn't your problem, and you love your job. What happens between Queen Witch(QW) and the GM, isn't your deal, and to ignore it and her, and just do your job and enjoy it. So when QW comes around with her attitude, you flat out ignore her. Just ignore her, and enjoy your day. You make a willful choice to not allow some dipwad person ruin your job, and ignore her. (this takes real courage and ability) Option 2. At the risk of retaliation, try and keep the job while going through the rough experience of escalating the problem to higher management. This means reporting her behavior on a regular basis, with the understanding that there could be repercussions that could possibly cost him his job. This is the idea that "right" is worth fighting for. You stand up and take action, knowing you could face some consequences for it. The soldier in the battle marches off to war, knowing he's doing what is right and needs to be done, but also knowing he could take a shot for doing it. Option 3. You determine that life is too short, and putting up with this garbage is not worth it. You've got better things to do than deal with some QW scum bag who's ruining everyone's job. You've got experience, skills, abilities, and someone out there might even pay you more for what you are able to do. So you put on a nice happy face, polish up your resume, and start applying for positions. You do NOT quit until you have another job. At your current company, you pretend like you couldn't be happier to hear Queen rant go off about some spec of dust in the corner, while at home, you are checking the help wanted, the MonsterJobs.com, and all the other companies in the area. Eventually, he will find something, and you just put up with QW until that day. Now the key in all those is, there is no 'right' or 'wrong' answer. There is absolutely nothing wrong with option 1, and just saying forget her, I love my job. What happens is too bad for them. There in nothing wrong with, option three and saying "hey life is too short for this", and bailing out. And of course there is nothing wrong with grabbing your weapon, and marching into battle, to stand up for what is right. There are just a few things you should know. Option 2 can be far more costly than you ever expect. You need to be prepared. Prepared not only to take the heat, but to even lose your job. Or even if that isn't the case, be prepared for long term consequences. Negative reviews. Loss of promotions. Having rumors spread about you. You'll have to over come those things. Also on option 3, you need to put the best possible face forward at work, even to the people that are driving you crazy. Your ability to leave that job with the most people thinking well of you, can be crucial for later employment. Also, you'll need to tough it out as best you can until you find another job. One of the key things recruiters say about job interviews, is they can instantly tell the difference between someone who is already employed but looking for a move up, and someone whose unemployed and desperate. Someone who does have a pay check coming in, comes across totally different than someone who is thinking about all the bills they have at home, on the way to the interview. "Desperate" is not a positive quality in recruitment. Now once your husband makes up his mind, which of these three options he intends to go for, a ton of the pressure and stress will disappear. If you know you are on your way out, you can put up with crazy QW girl for just a while longer. If you know you are going to fight in a royal battle, you can deal with writing down everything she does to send it in. If you know that your job is worth it, and some whiny little 20 year old dip isn't going to ruin your day, you won't let her. But if you are bouncing around, thinking oh maybe I should, well I really don't want to but, I just think that oh... I don't know. That will build up in your system until you explode. Then you'll end up doing something really stupid. Like quitting your job after cussing out the queen witch, and sending a 15 page memo to everyone in management about how much you hate her guts. Now you don't have a job, you haven't even started the process of looking, you ruined your reputation at the old company, and you alienated everyone who might have vouched for you. Plus, you gave the girl exactly what she wants. Management will think, well after what he did, we can't trust his word about how horrible QW is. [andy77e]
Well, if telling her off works for a few days, and he can do that without getting in trouble, then in my book problem solved. Every time she becomes QW, just tell her off. Do it consistently every single time she acts up, and go about your business. I was assuming he didn't have that ability. Most places I work, if you tell someone off, you get into trouble for "acting unprofessional" even if the other was being a total jerk. [andy77e]
What your husband actually can do if in case that the GM retaliate to him is go directly to their company's Human Resource Department and file a complains regarding this kind of attitude because based on your story of what I can see is that the DM doesn't even care about whether if the GM is tolerating the SM so only the human resource department can do something about this because in first place your husband have a evidence or proof that most of the people work in their store is get fired or resigning to their job. The Human Resource will conduct investigation on this and may give a necessary action. Why Human Resource? because they represent and will listen to the voice of their employees because it was their job. [newuserptc]
The DM was only just made aware of the situation a few days ago. First he needs a chance to look into it and figure out what to do. And I don't believe they have a HR department. It's not that kind of company. [katsmeow1213]
That's a hard spot as the DM is now aware of the situation. All I can say is do his best to hang on. If it comes to blows let them fire him atleast he'd get unemployment! If he quits he'd get nothing. I've worked with folks a few yrs younger than I that thought their shiot didn't stink. Eventually they sink their own ship, the problem is waiting it out til they do that. Though a person wonders why the GM is sticking up for this 20 something? Is there something off the clock going on? Makes the gears turn as to why this girl can push the buttons and cause so many good employees to leave. I think as a DM this would be a red flag as to the turn over at this location that something wasn't right & now phone calls.... Too bad the DM doesn't get off his dead butt & can the GM & the sales mgr.... Keep us posted! [3SnuggleBunnies]
He won't get fired, that's a fact. That company would never fire him, and like I said, the GM doesn't have that kind of power. The DM doesn't even have the power to fire him, it would have to come from even higher in the company. We have a lot of reasons for wanting him to quit, this is only the most recent reason. [katsmeow1213]
This is really a sticky situation. Your husband would be well advised to document every detail he can about anything he sees or hears, on the sly side. Also, is it possible for him to plant a mini recorder where the GM and this twit are alone together? Something is going on there, or it is at least brewing. If your husband can deal with 'her' with a blaze attitude, while he keeps his eyes and ears to the ground, he will come out ahead. If the situation turns ugly, and he is terminated, then he should go to the local Labor Board, tell them everything, and then sue the company for wrongful termination, and even sue the gal in question for contributing to the problem. She needs to go. Sounds like the GM has a little hot thing for her. This stuff happens everywhere, every day, but smart people can put it in the can where it belongs. Have him do some background checking on her. He could even suck up to her and gather information on the sly side that he can use to create his own profile on her. A little stuff from a former co worker where she came from can be a BIG help...............Good luck. [detabb47]
It happens everywhere. It's been like that in every factory I've ever worked in, and every retail store. There are always the people who like to push others around. For no other reason than they can. One I dealt with by getting in her face when she was harping on me. I watched who she picked on and analyzed it. She only ragged on people who were peaceful, they wouldn't snap back. She was always pleasant with the snarky people, the ones who'd jump all over you for looking at them wrong. So when she started on me, I turned and snarled back. We got along perfectly after that. Even became sort of friends. Another had to be the queen. She took credit for everyone else's work. Couldn't do wrong. It galled me, but I complimented her in front of the boss once. Then I made a point of saying hi to her when I saw her. Since I had complimented her in front of him, when she was telling a flat out lie about something that had happened another time, when I contradicted her and told what really happened, he believed me. After all, I couldn't be her enemy, could I? Not and compliment her in front of him! It worked out rather well. Although I wanted to rip my tongue out for every saying anything nice about her, it was the truth. She deserved the compliment, then. Sometimes it does come back to bite them. Work just fired this big bully who's been doing pretty much what he pleases. He would come in, clock in, then leave to do what he wanted. He'd come back to clock out. They knew, but he was so big and mean, nobody wanted to cross him. He's made a lot of managers leave cause he gets in their face and screams at them, raising his fists and so on. But this one threw fits at the home office and got him suspended. When he came back, they had pages of things he was supposed to sign about what he wouldn't do anymore. He threw a fit and they actually fired him!! You have no idea how much tension is gone now! I didn't think it would ever happen, but sometimes it does come home to roost. [snowcat46]
I'm sorry to hear about your husbands circumstance. I think everyone has been in this position at least once in their lives. I would suggest however that he hold on to this job until he can find another one. It is rough looking for a job now days. I would start my job hunting... feel out the climate for jobs in the area before he moves any further toward quitting the job he has. Who knows in the meantime that lady might step on the wrong toes anyway. [glords]
That's a crumby situation to be in and it always seems lose-lose with things like this. Maybe a change of scenery would be good for your husband - and you - but of course it has to be the right place, circumstance, wage etc. and that opportunity may not present itself for a while. So his choices are limited to gritting his teeth and dealing with it while looking for something new or trying to exact some change at his workplace regarding this little moo cow. I think it's great that he called the DM and set some things straight and it would be awesome if more people did that exact same thing. Maybe if he were to start hearing more of this kind of stuff he would start to put a little pressure on the GM and he would start to realize that she's more trouble than she's worth. Unless of course they ARE sleeping together, in which case there will be no getting through to him. [jesssp]
Wow, and the plot thickens. Sounds like your husband is in a good position at least, he's able to hopefully get something to happen without doing anything wrong or even anything out of the ordinary. Just let the GM dig his own grave. [jesssp]
First off, I have to say that I tend to agree with you in the thought that the sales manager and the general manager are sleeping with each other. How else would she be able to develop the situations that she has been able to develop. As far as quitting over drama in the workplace, I know that it is a very tempting idea. And I might be tempted to consider it. However, I would not walk out on one job without having another job secured. [dorannmwin]
Sleeping with her - that's exactly what I was thinking. Either that or he's just really happy with the job she's doing. confused If the GM is allowing her to get away with this kind of crap, and if he finds out what your husband said to the DM, there certainly is a chance that he will try and retaliate. But I wouldn't advise quitting a good job in this economy. If your husband is that fed up, I'd advise him to start looking for another job. It really is easier to find a job when you have a job. [dawnald]
I am sorry for what your husband is going through. To some extent my husband knows what you are going through. My husband works for a small radio station in town and things were going great at first. He was hired part-time for the first six months then when the boss who hired him was supposed to quit. The boss had quit without any notice and my husband had stepped up to the plate. He worked 12 hours a day and was not getting any overtime pay or a raise. This went for four months then the owner went behind my husband's back and hired someone else. My husband was furious. To make matters worse the guy who quit with no notice begged for his job back and the owner and his wife caved in and gave it back. The new guy that was hired left because he was going to be demoted and that would have meant firing my husband. Well, the guy who begged for his job back quit the second time, again no notice just up and left. My husband yet again filled in and then again a few months later the owner hired someone else. To make matters worse the owners younger son got married this past Saturday and the reception cost $45,000. The owner claims that the economy is bad and that there is no money in the budget for my husband to get a raise, but yet he can afford an expensive wedding. My husband wants to quit as well, but can't. We need the money and I can not find work. If there is a way to make a full-time living online I would. I wish your husband can quit because I can tell just by what you have wtitten that the stress is getting to the both of you and that in time it may affect his health. [randylovesdar]
It has not been easy. I am on the sub list and love it. Today I subbed for a third grade class and these kids were great. So eager to learn. My husband would love to work anywhere else. His boss is an idiot. I am hoping that the job market will open up soon because it has been a struggle paying the bills and surviving. I am looking for ways to make money online to help make ends meet. I am looking for ways to make money by writing. [randylovesdar]
It sounds to me like the Gm and the dm are sleeping together and that is really lousy. What I would do is to look for another job but do not leave this one until he finds a much better job without all that friction and infighting going on. it must be really unpleasant for your husband to have to work there with that Gm being the way she is.hope your husband can find another job and quit this one. good luck and God bless. [Hatley]
Ummm..Yikes..sounds like drama queen city over at hubby's workplace and the one who starts it all is being protected to much and closely. He either knows the girls father or significant other very well and helps keep her job out of friendship or as you said he is getting a little side action going on..in which case they both should be fired because of it if it is he reason. I do hope the drama has calmed down since this post and the got something done about the ferocious dragon lady..and her knight in Armour..lol It is never a good idea to quit unless a job is already lined up in place. So has anything rolled back on hubby by the way I think that showed guts what he did and he was only doing right..which he should be rewarded for. The GM needs to stop protecting her and listen to the others complaints and do his job right.. [mtdewgurl74]