We all have to work, our personal things, a coffee cup, a towel, a soap, pens or a plant on table.
Nothing makes me nervous just to look for something that is mine, and not found, but I find things on the desk of a colleague on office.
The strongest irritates me when somebody use my one cup of coffee, or towel, dirt on others hands. What is mine is mine, do not bring cups of coffee or towels for all office colleagues.
First, it is not hygienic, I see traces of lipstick from some pal on my cup, or a colleague who was with who knows who last night that put her lips on my cup ...
You are annoyed when someone uses yours things in the office? neverangry learn any naughty colleague to stop using your stuff? I have several.
[question posted by icesmile]
responses and comments:
I definitely get irritated when someone uses my personal belongings, especially without asking me first. There are some things I will share, like a clothing item. Yet other more personal hygiene items I will not. Reason being is I grew up in a household of 5 siblings, and finding things like pubic hair on soap just grosses me out to no end! In fact, I am very protective of my personal belongings because they are mine. I don't want other people's germs on them, when my own are enough! [towongfoo27]
come on..to find WHAT in your soap?i can t believe...lollollol [icesmile]
Oh yes I really dislike that. I used to keep a sketch book behind the cupboard(to keep it flat) and I went away for a weeks holiday. When I came back someone had used it for drawing in. It had got some splashes on one of my drawing too which weren't there before. Even now at home, I always ask to borrow from my husband or kids and if they say no then that is their choice, I never ever just pick things up and use them because I want that respect in return. Some things should always be your own personal possessions [pandaeyes]
As I said, is only a matter of education, this really annoy me, sorry to all, never use someone else's things, so i ask the same thing. If someone uses my cup of coffee, not one I will get back and I said '' you can take it as a gift, no longer need it"angry [icesmile]
I draw a line against people using my personal things. You can borrow a book or a pen but not my personal effects. I would not even like people to quietly use my shoes and sandals. Some people take your sports rackets and just forget to return it conveniently. I just dislike people taking me for granted. Do you? [jonjee0203]
My slogan is "what is mine, is all mine "applies to all is mine, just anything or anyone...i dislike people who take what is mine for sure..happy [icesmile]
no most of the situations i wont fell anything if they are using my belongings . but if i am too personal with a thing and they use it in not a good manner which i dont like i may get tensed . but i mostly done worry about my personal things used by others . [dilipmiester]
Maybe you're more tolerant, I am not, i don t like when somebody else don t ask permition before to try to use my personal thingshappy [icesmile]
To me sharing is okay for certain things, But there are things i reluctant to share. For cups, pens, i think its okay for me, provided they return it to me. I will get annoyed if someone used my things and keep it until i ask for it. its just i hate asking for my things back. [broboque]
is annoyed if they don t get back, you are right, but i don t like when somebody else use my personal things; thumbdown [icesmile]
I would for sure be upset! Upset is an understatement to be honest! I don't even want to think about it lol lol. Is there a way that you could keep your stuff in like say a desk drawer or something. I am sure they are not aloud in your desk drawers, are they? That way if someone does us it your could be like, look it was gottne out of my desk drawer. That's what I would do anyway. That way you can do something about it. Since they seem to be so hard headed they don't want to listen to you. [sxrxnrr45601]
I hate it when people use my things and they don't even tell me about it. Specially if I have to look for it, and they'll say, that oh I borrowed it yesterday, I forgot to give it back... I mean, isn't borrowing means that you have to ask for it and not just take it?! Before I had officemates that are like that, always taking things that are not theirs. But now, all of them have already changed jobs, so I don't have any more problems like that. [Ingkingderders]
of course i will get angry because that is my personal belongings, and for hygiene reasons that is not really proper to get things especially without permission. or returning it dirty. i will really get irritated those kind of persons. [rosey19]
I could say that I am in most times having a patient attitude towards my friends. And usually when they use my personal things then I could be patient and allow them too do such.Not everything though,probably I could bear seeing them things handy like a face powder or something which they use as long as it won't be like having a contact on my skin and theirs like lipstick, clothes, hairbrush.I can't tolerate a friend once they use things like that.If ever they do I would let them know that I'm not at home with it and probably I could give it to them or rid of the thing after they use it.I'm very particular with hygiene. [dragonangel]
Yeah, I always get angry every time my colleagues would just get my personal things without me noticing it. I have this incident when I was so shocked when I saw my bag open and I don't know if I just leave it that way or somebody open it. But it prove me when my colleague went out of the bathroom holding my tissue paper. I don't want to accuse her something because maybe we have similar tissue paper. But then she told me that I asked for your tissue paper....Ha! So, she just get it in my bag without asking at me first before getting it. From that time, I really want to put a lock in my bag. So that nobody can just get it there. What if I've lost something like money....hay!jealous [joannaleed]
Well, i used to have the same problem back in high school, alot of people wanted to use my mobile phone because it was a rare release of sony ericsson at that time, and well i was finding myself withouth it many times because they just loved the games and stuff that it had (NOM), but i got used to it and tried not to put too personal things in it and i went along, i dont really used my cell phone either. One thing i wouldnt want someone to look in, is my browser (opera) i have many business tabs open and if someone mess them up its really bad. [Egocentric]
Hi there! Well, it really depends. If that colleague asked my permission prior to borrowing something that I own, then it would be fine. But if he/she got it without me knowing or without asking my permission first, then i'd be really pissed. I'd tell her that what she did was wrong. I have the right to be respected too. [brymel25]
Hello ice, I have the same experience too.I have this housemate who is always fond of using our kitchen utensils and everything.At first I thought it is ok I understand you are still new and maybe have not bought your stuff yet.But gosh, she keeps on doing it everyday.I have how she uses my cup of coffee too and forgets to clean it after use.angryAnd just yesterday she ask for a salt.Even a salt she can't afford to buy?shocked [ybonjoc]
Yep, totally agree, I can't stand people who dont respect my space. I am always open to lend my stuff when they a ask for them, but It gets on my nerves when they just take things without my permission. [rcom2025]
I hate it when I am not around they use my fan without my permission. I mean, its okay for me if they would use my fan as long as they would tell me. The other day I found my fan sitting on a desk and I didnt know who used it. They could have just put it back on my table after they used it but they didnt. Grrr.. [p3ks626]
As long as it's not a personal hygene object like a tooth brush, I really don't see the problem... I'm not that attached to objects, I really like to share. I think it's just the polite thing to do. And if someone does eventually break something of mine or harm it in any way, I think it's their duty to replace it or at least fix it... If they don't, well, what goes around, comes around! [universe2o6]
I agree I would be upset because this is how flu and things spread. You can also spread things that aren't so great. I have never had this problem, I work from home so I don't have any colleagues but if I did and had the same problems I would be mad. Put Vaseline on the rim of your cup so when they go to use it they will learn there lesson. [christinawise87]
If they use things without asking me first, i will be plenty upset. However, if they ask me if they can borrow things, I know what they need, why they need it, how they will be using it, who they are, and when I will get the item back, and that it will come back to me in good condition, then I will be more than happy to lend them something. My step-father worked on the road, and had a special coffee cup that we gave him. He caught a co-worker using it, and told him to get his own coffee cup because "my girls gave that to me" (his girls being my mother, sister and I) and it was special to him. [danishcanadian]
hello ice, i guess respect is the word before anyone uses my things. rolleyes she should ask my permission prior to using it and then it would be fine. i would surely be upset and angry if it is used without my knowledge first before it is used.ninja annhappy [tigeraunt]