Hi to all my friends and members, this discussion is different as I give how to handle rejection to obtaining a job, have you ever been turned down for a job? Dealing with rejection is a hurdle you must overcome, so don't take it as the end of a journey towards a new career path; instead, consider it a sign. Take a step back and re-assess what went wrong and what you need to do in order to fix it. Ask a friend or colleague to help review your resume and practice tough interview questions to discover areas for improvement. By being well prepared, you'll be back on track in no time.
[question posted by kathy77]
responses and comments:
I must take my own advice, because I'm job seeking myself, so I think that we each have to keep pounding the pavement, making cold calls, every day do as much as we physically can by sending resumes, faxing cover letters, setting up interviews, even just for the practise, and evaluating our interview performance, even boldly but humbly requesting after being turned down how we can improve on our interview skills for future reference by those who interviewed us. We have to keep at it, day after day, researching companies who will be going on interviews with, wearing the appropriate attire, never getting tired of job searching, networking, and reading the book, "What Color is Your Parachute". Keep on keeping on, because eventually we'll die trying until someone has to say, "Your hired." Why would we want to work for someone who rejects us, anyway. Good luck to you and all who are job searching. [Artsimba]
I have had several rejections in my time. One time i applied for over 70 jobs and i only got 13 replies. this really knocks your confidence around. It is very hard to deal with but it is just something that you need to do and move on to the next job. You have to allways remember that the next job just might be the one that you get. My advice to anyone seeking work is to stay positive and focused. the right job for you could be just around the corner. One must have faith. [zhetto]
Hi Zhetto, I do not know why these responses have not been done yet so I hope everything is going fine for you and that you are still working hard. Have a great day [kathy77]
This is a great topic as I'm in the process of finding a new job now. I haven't had to do this for the past 7 years, but I guess I can say I have gained some new skills in that time. When I have been turned down from a job, I just see it as a stepping stone. Something I can learn from. I will always ask for feedback from an employer once I have been turned down, so that my techniques are better next time. It's a learning process and the right job will come along eventually. [missytia]
yes many times i have experienced being rejected in my application for job. But its okay, its not the end of the world.. Treat it as a challenge. If they didnt hire you, they'll never what they will be missing.. Just do your best and be professional in everything you do. [livvy092002]
I can understand your frustration, But if you are getting rejected then dont be upset as you will get a better job, trust God and everything will be fine at the right time. [sameer2cute]
It can be hard to handle rejection but if we look at every rejection as a way to eventually find a solution, it may help. It could also help to do some research how to earn in different ways with your own business. It has not be hard, just choose what suits you best. If you check my website you can find a lot of business people looking for contacts. [buenavida]
I find that if I have given the best I can and haven't got the job then I just assume that someone with better experience or qualifications has got it and I don't feel down. If I'm not sure why I didn't get it I often phone up and ask, as they can then give you some hints about how to do better at the next interview. [michelledarcy]
Sometimes it is really difficult to find another new employment especially during this times when jobs are really hard to find. Definitely there would be instances when you really have to deal with rejection especially if the position that you are applying for is very competitive, which means that there are so many applicants vying for the same job. [ernst111]
never felt dissappointing if i rejected by a firm.we have to analysed the reasoon behind the rejection try to find solution, preapared ourself for the next job,there r only two things in this world yes/no,if anyone got yes they worked ,if any got no they tried for yes thats it [pandeydeependra]
if u r looking for a new job than rejection is the part of a job than enjoy that also [manmaxman]
Rejection is not always a negative thing. Sometimes you are rejected for a job because it is truly not right for you and there is something more suited fpr you coming up the road. Keep a positive attitude. Good Luck! [trustyfriend]
Those tips given by you are quite practical and useful.I agree that one should learn from his mistakes, and should try to work on his shortcomings.Another thing, that I would like to add is that, one should be honest, and try to be himself, and that, he should not try to present a false personality of his in front of the interviewer. One thing I would not do is put on a Womens Costumes and pan handle for money. [hariramyadav1950]
Yes i agree. well just for a tip (also for me), don't just sit all day looking for a job in newspaper. make things happen: read books that is related to what job you want to have, read articles that could help you have an edge with others in that field. [ranmoac]
Rejection? When looking for a job? Imagine that :) I work as a Management Consultant so I tend to work on special projects for companies and when the project is over sometimes I stay on and do other work but often when my project is finished, so am I. So I am constantly looking for work. As a result I am constantly dealing with rejection. If this happens try to draw Abstract Art I think you could luck out cuz it all looks like crap about some people end up selling it for tons. The trick for me is to just not take it personally, because it isn't personal. Getting turned down for a job isn't a reflection on your character, your personality, you in general - it just means that they have found someone who is a better fit for the position. If I was really hurting for money I could sell the AC Milan Jerseys off my back. Recrafting a resume, moving to a new career path, continuting your education will all help you be more prepared for the future job interviews. [suzannaz]
Yes, i had several rejection in my job applications its really offensive but i learned a lot from it. I evaluated myself regarding my capabilities, my strength and weakness and realize what kind of job that i can really qualify. [arwenrey]
I am an actress and about a year ago I was turned down a couple of times. After about the second time I quit going to audidtions, because I was afraid that I was not good enough. Rejection really sucks, it took me a while to even look for another audition to go to. Now I'm actually back to where I can look for auditions, but I still haven't taken the time to go to one. I'm on my way, I'm try though. Thanks for this topic. It gave me so much more to think about. I like this topic! [twenty1]
What you said is absolutely correct. Failure is the first step in the ladder towards victory. So don't get disappointed and try more enthusiastically and energetically next time. And always believe that God has reserved something better than this one for you and that belief itself will help you. Let failure enhance your enthusiasm!!! [krishnageethika]
I havn't worked since Ross was born with CP almost 27 years ogo and when I did work there were a lot more jobs to be had , so luckily I have never had the problem xx [weemam]
It is tough being rejected. I have been rejected a couple of times and now I have given up. I don't intend to work but I intend to put on my own small business when I have the capital. Sometimes rejection is a good thing for us to reevaluate our goals and what we really want in our life. [Lana_Lang]
Rejection is never easy. I have been rejected so many times I can not even remember them. I look at it like this. I feel like the Detroit Lions should read these page cause they are about to go bye bye. If they at least call you in for an interview, they saw something they like. At ever interview you can learn something. Maybe you are weak in an area, and that you can work on it. Maybe you just need a little experience, just be creative in finding that experience(That is what I am working on looking for now, but debts are keeping my search limited.) Just dont up, When they dont hire you they are losing out on a great emplyee. [harwoodkp]
I have been turned down more then you can imagine. It is a part of life. You just have to come to terms with it. You will eventually get hired, and then be so glad you didn't get that job. But I sympathize with you because I know rejection isn't fun. It slams the ego down, that is for sure. Just try not to take it out on yourself. It is their loss. [crickethear]
well rejections are a part of life....u cannot get accepted everywhere, coz for every job there are hundred applicants, and 99 have to go back...dont worry someday you will be the one...so accept it as failure is the first step to success [rahuldmhatre]
Im only 17 and its very hard for me to get a job..I'm drug free and I'm very responsible but its just hard for me to come across a job... [Killamurk07]
I've been job hunting since mid-December. Only had one interview. It's kind of frustrating to no get any responss, but I'm trying to keep an open mind and keep looking. I know that eventually the right thing will come along. Meanwhile, I'm trying to enjoy the time I get to spend at home with DS. [cjthedog64]
Hi ! I am in the same situatiion. I am looking for a job but can't get it. Some because the position requires more than my own skills. I want to up date my education by adding one more course [makanga]
I've been turned down for all 9 jobs I've applied for since the US government changed the rule about disabled people working and keeping their benefits. Some I felt really qualified for, but I guess you never know what people are really looking for. The thing that annnoys me the most is being asked back for a second interview to a place that's far away and requires me to take a bus trip and pay a bus fare and then not getting the job after all that. [cripfemme]
I have been rejected for so many times in applying for a certain job. At first, I got disappointed especially if I really want the job I am applying for or when I badly need a job. But I just motivate myself by thinking that it was not really meant for me or there still a better job for me and maybe that was not yet the right time for me to have a job. [it_online]
Rejections are always hard, and trying to get a job can be extremely frustrating! Keeping your head up and staying positive is essential because if you lose your optimism you seem to lose your motivation as well. Your tips are great, thanks! [IshidaMitsunari]
I do NOT handle rejection good AT ALL! Plus the rejections were lame and made NO sense. We are talking jobs I was SURE I was gonna get, and the manager turned around and as a real poop and just rejected me for reasons they NEVER stated as bad in the first place. "your hours dont work" but they worked when we first talked before you set up the second interview! They say "flexible hours" and expect YOU to work around THEIRS. Even more so I have a constant run around feeling. Pluse the kicker: I am under PRESSURE cause I have NO money to pay bills this month! Fun food for thought! I've never been one to handle rejection good but latelly these were so uncalled for and made no sense it really gets a person upset! :(( [monkeywriter]
I think the most important thing about interviews and rejection is to stay positive. If you don't think this way they will pick up on it through body language and the little things. If one can stay positive and focused they will see this and give you a better chance of getting the job. [zhetto]
I had gone to a job agency hoping to find a job. I was wearing a pants suit, looking quite sharp, or so I thought. The lady that was interviewing me, took one look at my outfit and told me she doesn't want people that dress like me. I have heard of a lot of dorks not taking this well and just playing World of Warcraft Power Leveling all day. She told me to go home, put on makeup, stockings, a dress and high heels. If I did that, she woulde consider talking to me. Well, I thanked her for her time and told her not to bother wasting my time. I had the experience for the job that i was going for. If you must judge me, judge me for what I know not for what I wear. I found a better paying job that was in a better location all by myself. I never went back to her and I told all my friends what happened. Cash in the White House collectibles if you don't get that nice job. I only pray that I don't have to job hunt here in the UK. They don't seem to acknowledge much from the States in regards to education or work history. [spiritwolf52]
Hi Kathy77, It is always disappointing when you are rejected for a job, but I believe it's because of the path of life and you'll soon get the right job that will lead you down the right path (well it always works for me!) Whats really annoying is when you have taken the time to write out c.v's been to interviews and stuff and they don't bother to reply!! It's so annoying and rude and I end up thinking it's good I didn't get the job there anyway! [Bizziebod]
You only get rejected if people didn't buy you. What does it mean? It means you have not sold yourself to them enough. I was like this a few years back until I was lucky enough to be introduced by a credible friend to my Japanese employer. If this happens just use a Search Directory and move on. I've learned that the secret to this all is "Law of Attraction ". When possible employer interview you, that means you have been short listed, right? If you have given them enough info about you before you come on the interview day then rejection would be less to nothing. Get on your Mac Operating Systems log online and try again. Here is what I did. Create my profile at http://www.friendster.com/jhtglobal then I send this to my prospects. That way they would know more about me even before the actual meeting. Resumes are good (they are classic) but nowadays you have got to be online. Inside my profile is a book where I got to learn all this. Visit my site, scroll down directly to the book. Don't bother about my profile. Go directly to the book as this will help you with your endeavor. It works for me and I hope it will work for you too. Good luck! [siampinoyglobal]
hiya, when i left sixth form i was looking for a job for a year i had a part time job behind a bar in my local but i couldnt get a full time one my problem was i couldnt do interviews cos of my nervous but then last year august i went for a job to work in a hotel i went in the interview room confident cos i really wanted this job i was doing well untill the manager was abit of an idiot which knocked my confidence alot so i didnt think i got the job 2 days later they phoned me and said i had the job so i was over the moon im still in the job and i love it so i know it was the right move for me i think its down to confidence [mel_87]
Congratulations for starting a very good discusion.I think most of us gets rejected in some job interviews and while applying many of us faces the same situation.It is very important that we do not losse our confidence once we are rejected. [anup12]