My husband started to work 4 days last week for 10 hours and it gives him 3 days off...It was a great weekend really for us last week since we were together until Monday!
But, last Thursday, he got a call from their Sister's company who asked him to work for them every Monday to help them in some areas..We are happy that it is an additional income for us but on the other hand, I am sad since our time again will be affected! I am sure working like 48 hours a week is too much and too tiring!
ANyway, I have no choice, I am glad I have Mylot where I can also spend my idle time!
ANy experiences friends that gives you mixed emotions this week?winkwink
[question posted by checapricorn]
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A few of my co-workers are kind of in fogs right now. My closest co-worker is in a "waiting period" with her husband. His workplace is going corporate and there's rumor of a large number of layoffs to occur very soon. So they are tense until they find out about his job status. And another co-worker just had a heart-attack this weekend. She is doing ok now, awake and coherent, but it was a scare for her husband (who also works here). So he's kind of in and out today, understandably. Since this is a family owned company, you can tell everyone has their thoughts elsewhere. [tinkerick]
I got a small part time job last week which I was happy about becasue it will be fund and give me some extra income. The bad part is that it is very time consuming and takes quite a bit more work than i had anticipated. There is also a possiblitly I might not get paid for the assignment. So, I am happy yet kind of worried. [snowy22315]
Hi checapricorn, I also have to go through what you do, my husband is always working 10hrs a day, than he will work a double shift on friday, and back on sunday. And that gives us only one day together, in which we don't do much, he tired and doesn't want to to anything. Now on weekend he get to stay home a rest, while i'm out with my sister or my friend. It's hard for me to have any friends, since I don't work, I've lost communication with the one I had. Last weekend my sister took me to Palms Spring, we had a great time. the week before my friend invite me to go with her to the casino, and of course I had a great time. the best thing about it, is when you don't see your husband, you will miss him and when you both together you will enjoy each other company more. Next time have he's off and if you know that he is going to be home, have a picnic in your bedroom,(this way you don't to worry about ant's) and if you kiddy are home are you're mom to babysit for a couple hours. [kaleegirl45]
Is the sister company going to be paying him overtime rate? They should shouldn't they, since he will be over his 40 hours and that should be time and a half for the 8 hours he will work on Mondays, unless they pay him with a separate check. I think he should be entitled to it, don't you? You guys will be fine just rent and watch some 3D Movies you will be fine. [howard96h]
Yes there are many people who work a lot more hours, my roommate works 60 hours every week and only has one day off a week, he gets no vacation and no sick days. [howard96h]
hello che, sorry to hear bout the good and bad news. im sure your husband feels the same way but it is for your future so, like you said, no choice really except if you prefer to have less income and more of him. how long will that last (the monday job)? will that be a permanent kind of job for him or it is just for the mean time till they get over with whatever problem they have. so far my week is doing well but i can really relate with you last weekend. my husband had his 4 days training in BC and he is supposed to arrive home at 11pm but the dang airplane from BC arrives late in Toronto so the staff their said he cant no longer board to his connecting flight at 9pm (they arrived 8:45 and for some reason they dont want to board the not so late ones). they also said that the airport closes at 9 so he cant get a new flight (WTF!!!) a big airport and no flight at friday night and it was not even that late - oh well! i was so devastated coz i am so looking forward to see and hug him and be able to finally sleep (i was sick during his trip) and it didnt happen. he arrives last saturday and our weekend fun outside is gone coz he is very tired and we both dont have a good sleep for 4 days so we just sleep most of the time. the mixed emotion part is... it makes me sad coz he didnt arrive the time he is supposed to be home... BUT i am happy that he got home safe and sound (that is all that matters anyway.) now he is back home and working next to me - so i guess it is not that bad at all LOL anyway, cheer up! he still goes home at night and he is working that fooling around (like others) and you know that he is doing it for the betterment of both future. have a good one! takecare [jairgirl]
Yes that is good as a lot of people are out of a job. And yes I have mixed emotions this week as I am moving to NM next Friday, & I will miss mom tremendously, but I need to make this move for myself..Lori [dumblnddzzy]
wow...that's cool Lori! let us know the updates when you will start to operate your business! [checapricorn]
Hi Che, Thats too bad. Hopefully it won't be a permanent situation. And if it does become permanent, maybe he can say no. Sometimes the money isn't as important as the time spent with family. Is there any way he can put it off for a few weeks to give you some time together? My husband has been out of work for over a year now and we are one of those couples struggling to keep our home. I would give anything right now to be able to get up in the morning and help him get off to work. Hang in there Sweetie, maybe it won't last. Anyway, we'll keep you company. Hugs leenie [leenie50]
Hi leenie, You're so sweet! Thanks a bunch,,It is not actually permanent, just for like 3 months I guess since the 4 day work policy of their company will only last for 3 months too! But, I was thinking 48 hours is already too much, I am learning here that some people have to work 60 hours..I am enlighten!happyhappyhappy [checapricorn]
ya well i have one.but its too childish. one of my oldest friend came to my place.He is my best friend and i met him like after 8 years. So i am happy .actually very happy. but the first thing he did after coming to my place was that he switched on the ps2 and he had short circuited the wires in the plug. so the ps2 burst. Now what can i do??:( well here i am sad :(Here i am happy , yet i am sad, and i bought my os2 like 1 month ago and from my own money actually my first job officially :((sadcry [cyberkunal]
Hi cyber, ohhh....that is indeed mixed emotions..I hope he will take charge of replacing it! LOL!sadsadsad [checapricorn]
I used to work nearly 60 hours every week when I worked. I was a single mom through divorce, and got no help from my daughter's dad. I had no choice. It dug into the time I had to spend with her of course. She said she would have rather had me than the money.. but we had to have the money too. We do what we have to do. [OreoCookie3]
Hi Oreo, ohhh....60 hours? wow! ANyway, I agree with you, we need more time to be with our loved ones but we also need money to survive! Thanks for sharing , you makes me feel better!happyhappyhappy [checapricorn]
It is hard I know, but the money could come in handy with living expenses. In Australia 48 hours a week work is quite the norm, some people here even work 60 hours a week. My partner will be doing taxi driving soon and he will be doing 4, 12 hours shifts which is also 48 hours a week. I don't mind as I know he is home for three days so we can enjoy quality time together then.Maybe some Free music vids will make you feel better. Mixed emotions for me this week is my aunty and uncle have been visiting from the UK, I have not seen them in 10 years. Just when I felt really use to the idea that they were here, they are leaving today. I am quite sad as I know it may be another 10 years again before they visit. ALso my kids will be sad too as they grew quite attached to them this past week. So I am quite sad today that they are leaving, I wish flights weren't so expensive. [kiran1978]
Hi kiran, ohhh..I understand how you feel about it..It is truly sad and I know a couple of days without them will be quite difficult since you use to wake up each morning seeing them..Anyway, this is life, sometimes I will think why we have to be so far from our family and relatives...Why is it that places have to be this far!sadsadsad [checapricorn]
Well I understand what you are going through. It will be easier to adjust to your new schedule once you get used to it. This will allow you to make a little money in your spare time as well. In the long run it will probably keep your marriage fresh and you will appreciate each more since you don't have a lot of extra time together. Your time together will more precious. In today's economy the extra income will be good.When I feel bad I just put on a Japanese Movies makes me feel good. You could put the money that he makes with the extra hours in savings and pretend like you never had it. Then if you had time later, take a nice "getaway" together with the saved money! But, if you can't do that just try to cope with the situation as best as you can. Pamper your husband more since he may have added stress working more hours. [barbiedollgirl]
Hi barbie, Thanks for the wonderful advice! I agree with you, it is very tiring in his part but on the other hand, it is very helpful in our situation!happyhappy [checapricorn]
Actually, it is my son whom I am worried. They are in the final phase of their design and this means too much overtime. He gets like 45 hours overtime for every 15 days. Yeah, he has money but it is taking a toll in his body. [everlasting]
Hi everlasting, Wow..I hope it wont also last long..That is my concern too..Like physical effect and mental stress due to overworking! sadsadsad [checapricorn]
Mixed emotions? I'm looking forward to my husband coming up here next week to meet my family, but I am praying that something doesn't mess up at the border. When he's there I know where he is, but I WANT HIM HERE!!! It stinks when two people who are huband and wife live in two dieent countries. I know how you feel aout long working weeks. My husband works like a bugger for his company. [danishcanadian]
ohh....That is exciting danish! So, he will be staying with you already? or just a visit? I understand your situation too and happy to hear you will have him in your Country soon!happyhappy [checapricorn]
Hello checapricorn, Yeah, I have one but it is too personal to talk here *sighs* Whatever it is, I have to keep it to myself *sighs* Back to your topic....I think it is good that your husband is working just four days a week as both of you can spend more time together. Unfortunately, if financial is the main reason here, I think he has to do double job. Whatever dear friend, the most important is the quality of time that you spend together and it is not the quantity. By the way, you get used to him working five days a week and I believe nothing much changed as long as you are happy whenever you are together *smiles* [gr8life]
ohhhh...I understand gr8life, Just express that by writing your emotions and burn it after! I am doing that also when I want to keep something for me,,LOL! Anyway, thanks for sharing!happyhappyhappy [checapricorn]
Hi dear well all i can say that working 60 hours is alowed in Labouyr Law, But still u have 2 days togather, while here we have just Sunday Off think about it and feel happy that u r in much better positionhappywink Take care [cupid74]
Yeah u r right Always Thanks God that u r lucker than Billions of people living on face of earth [cupid74]
Checa, we cannot have sweets in our both the hands. Either we get the money/earnings or peace of life. If your husband is spending time on earnings, that will definitely help you to strengthen your financial position, however at the cost of peace. It is upto you, which one you both prefer, enjoyment of life i.e. spending a long weekend togethar or raising your financial position. Nonetheless, mylot and friends are always there for your support. [dpk262006]
Keep enjoying here on mylot!happyhappy [dpk262006]
Definitely!! My husband just moved back into the house. And, my emotions are all mixed up about it :) ... seriously [jalucia]
ohhh..I wonder why, anyway, thanks for sharing jalucia!winkwinkwink [checapricorn]
hey checapricorn, even i was in this situation.. i got a job away from my home town.. was good job with good payouthappy. and the second thought was that i will be away from the family.. sad. I was confused what should i do confused. then i decided to work for few month and then search a the same kind of job near my home.. but i got a job not that good but i was with my family. So at the end happness wins and it will happen with you. [yogeshdhusa]
Hi yogesh,, Wow! That's cool! I know even if we will just have a simple job that will be fine as long as we are near with our loved one! Thanks for sharing!happyhappy [checapricorn]
I could easily relate with your hubbby. I work 6 days a week (actually 5 1/2 days to be exact) since I also work Saturdays half-day. When I got employed over a year ago in this real estate company, I was clamoring that I be allowed to take a full Saturday off so I could spend quality time with my wife and kid and told him that I would work longer hours during the week to compensate for the time I am absent from work during Saturdays. My employer refused to grant me that incentive and insisted that I still work half-day on Saturdays. So that made me and my wife sad because that quality time was taken away from us. On the other hand, I need the job badly to provide for our daily needs. That's life, eh? [baruchaba]
HI baruchaba, Yea..it is indeed life! No choice, actually we have choice but not grabbing the opportunity also is a waste considering the economic condition that we are facing! Anyway, thanks for sharing!happyhappy [checapricorn]
I am happy to hear that you and your husband will have more income coming in but I am sad that it will effect your time together,and I am glad that you have mylot to help you pass the time,my fiance is thinking about applying at a restaurant not far from where we live,and I have mixed emotions,because if she gets the job we will have more money coming in,and we would also still have time together,but it also means that we would not be together all the time which makes me sad,and besides it is a real fancy place with a fancy dress code. [hellcowboy]
I agree everyone needs some extra income and I wish the best for you and your husband during the times you do get to spend together,and yeah I also hope she can find another place to work,and that sucks that your sister used to have to work at a resort where she had to wear a fancy uniform,and I can understand how her boyfriend which is now her husband felt,because I am very uncomfortable with the thought of her working at this restaurant,have a great day,good luck in your life,and Happy Posting my friend. [hellcowboy]
hubby or mylot? lol. well anyway, being with the family in longer period makes us really feel better. but as you said, we have mylot. and we have lots of friends here that will makes us busy and will almost forgot that we have problems. happy (red star 91 @ 1453) [neildc]
Hi neildc, lollol, of course hubby! LOL! your wifey or mylot? hahahaha! Joke!!! Yea, it's true, it's indeed healthy to found this site..great relief and divertion! [checapricorn]
Hi che. At least you get to see your hubby everyday. If you compared yours to my situation right now, you'll say that you are more lucky. My husband and I haven't been together for about 1 year and 7 months now. We have to sacrifice for our kids to have a better future. He is working in Canada right now. Yeah we see and talk to each other on cam everyday. But last week was worst. I experienced connection problems for days and we really missed each other. I haven't even been on mylot on those days so I spent those days doing chores. Smile my friend, when your hubby is out, we are in. LOL. HUGZ! [dhangski]
Hi dhangski, ohhh...Thanks for reminding me about this..Yea, I admire you in this way...My Mother and Father were in the same situation as you before and that was for 15 years... I feel good now, thanks for making me open up my mind! [checapricorn]
We have went through a number of times when it was necessary for us to work opposite shifts or extra hours that imposed on our personal time. We did come to decide that the extra money isn't worth losing our time together. [newtondak]
Thanks for sharing tondak!happyhappyhappy [checapricorn]
I am sorry that you are not going to be able to spend more time with your husband but atleast the added money will be there and you may be able to save up so that he can get a better job with fewer hours, or just get fewer hours at this job now! My fiance and I are kind of going to be experiencing the same thing. I haven't had a job since October, but will hopefully be getting another job soon. Even though I don't want to go back to work I know we need to for the money. I hope to save at the job and be able to buy more things that we need as well as just save for our future! Good Luck to you and your husband! Have a wonderful day here Checapricorn! [SomeCowgirl]
Good luck in your own job search then. Now that you mention it I do believe I read you saying that you may find yourself a job. May wealth be brought to us both then! Along with good health! [SomeCowgirl]
I know how you feel. I love any extra time I get with my hubby. And hate when it changes. It feels as though something has gotten stolen from me. Try to just enjoy the security of the extra income while you have it. Maybe send him a romantic note on Mondays. That way he will be thinking of you, while you a missing him. [ersmommy1]
Hi ersmommy, Thanks for that...I am always doing like every week! LOL! I know I will be able to recover from this feeling and thanks for Mylot also!lolhappyhappy [checapricorn]
Hi Checapricorn, I can understand why you have mixed feelings here as now instead of working 5 8 hour days your husband will be working 5 10 hour one leaving even less time at home and feeling more tired and only the weekends at home. Like you say though the extra money will come in handy and hopefully it is only temporary and try to make the most of the time you are now able to spend together eh! Huggles. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Yea..maybe time for me to practice! [checapricorn]
That's too bad that it cuts into your time with him, but most people do work 5 days a week and a lot of people work more than 48 hours a week. My husband is in management and he works from 6 in the morning till 6 or 7 at night and works 5 days a week that long and then on Saturdays he works from 6 in the morning till noon. So he is working a lot more than 48 hours a week. Not that I am saying that your husband doesn't work hard, as I am sure he does, I'm just saying it isn't a lot of hours compared to a lot of other people. It is good that you can do mylotting when he is working so you have something to keep you busy while he is at work. I personally, would love to only have to work 4 days a week and have a long weekend every weekend. I can see why the two of you loved it, while it lasted. [chrislotz]
You guys have a good weekend and enjoy the time you have together. I am off work now till Monday so I have three days off, myself, and I plan on enjoying them.happy [chrislotz]
Hi te che, it's indeed goodnews that you have additional income. Shaun is looking for a 2nd job too. The fight against the bills seems so hard in a one income generating family. This week is the last week of my baby sitting days. I baby sit 3 children!!!! well, it's extra income for us but after this, i'll be back to boredom again :) We r hoping that our immigration papers will be done very soon :) [ghall08]
Hi geene, I agree with you, it's wonderful to have another income plus we are also used to work so, it's very difficult! great to hear that you have babies there to take care with! I am sure it's your hands on training for your being a mother soon! LOL! I get happy and sad also like when it comes to Motorcycle Parts and Motorcycle Accessories I'm happy to have them but I don't want to spend the money on buying them. How did you find that job? that's cool! Hope you will be able to find another after that, we have no babies here in the neighborhood..I wish so I can baby sit too! [checapricorn]
I am thinking of leaving my job as my husband is going for a training and i want to be with him. The though of being with my husband makes me happy but the thought of leaving my job makes me sad!!!!! [karjyo]
Hi karjyo, That is indeed a mixed emotions also! I hope you can decide for the best and I know you will! We know our priorities in life! thanks for sharing and Good luck there! [checapricorn]
Sorry about you're husband having 2 work soo much but atleast u guys are getting the income that you need. And have the time he does get off to spend with eachother. I know it may not seem like enough but a little is better than nothing at all ya know? [Blondie2222]
Hi Blondie, Yea..I agree, thanks for sharing and now I was able to cope up since Saturday and Sunday he has no work!happyhappyhappy [checapricorn]
I think it is good for the work and if your husband is content with it. Jobs here where I live are scarce. There are a lot of people out of work due too lay off, closings etc. Just take advantage of it for now and maybe things will change for the better and you and he will have more time together. With the extra money you might find yourselves able to take a nice much needed vacation. [Chevee]
HI chevee, Yea..I was able to adjust now and at least we still have two weekends where he is staying in the house with me! Thanks for sharing!1happyhappyhappy [checapricorn]
hi checapricorn! happy that's really sad but at least you'll get additional income. any additional income is a big help nowadays. ^__^ mixed emotions this week.. the same old thing/person. this guy that i like that' i've been telling you all about.. he's been giving me compliments and flatteries but its not like he wants to get serious with me. as time passes by and everything he does, just strengthen my idea that he's not into serious relationship and he just wants to play a game on me. i'm happy with the compliments but i'm sad with the realization. last night i dreamed of him and he was my bf in it. i was happy to dream of him but at the same time, i'm sad because it means i'm pathetically thinking about him every now and then and everyday, it gets harder to forget him, he's so near yet so far. doh don't be sad about me checa. if you tell me instead that i'm stupid, i'll probably just laugh about it. its better than feeling sad. wink [secretbear]
Hi secretbear, wow..I am trying to think how to give you an advice so that you will find another man and move on! hahahah! I know it's hard but...how about talking to him heart to heart about what are his plans in life? and why he wants to play game with you? if I am in your situation, I will do that..I will invite him for a dinner and will asked him all the questions in my mind and heart and will advice him not to do it to anyone since he has to think also that he needs to respect any woman as he respects his mom...LOL! Let's see about this strategy and maybe when you will know him deeply...it will be your way to move on without him in your mind!happyhappyhappy [checapricorn]